Dream Bigger

I heard a key piece of information that has stuck with me, paraphrasing it is this, “Your dreams have to be bigger than your fears”- Steve Harvey. That phrase comes from his book Think like a Success, Act like a Success. I have to say that I was a little weary of a self-help empowerment book by Steve Harvey but after reading it, I must confess that I am a convert. It was very poignant and easy to read. Even though I had been reading other books about how to cultivate your mind for success. This book gave me one of my biggest lessons, Dream Bigger. Many of us do not accomplish nor even attempt to accomplish our dreams because of fear, fear of lack, fear of failure, fear of rejection, and so on. There can be millions of reasons why we should not even try but if the dream is so much grander then the fears, it does not matter.  

Many times we cultivate a dream based on what we believe is real enough to accomplish. We dare not dream of something so huge and grand that it would literally take a miracle for it to come to pass.

Why not shoot for the sun and end up on Mars?

What is wrong with that grand dream?

When we were children, we wanted to be a firefighter, a ballet dancing, and a truck. Well maybe we cannot be vehicles but why not a firefighting ballet dancer. We did not have limitations on the dreams that we created and the people that we wanted to be when we were children. It was not until either we were told what we could be and do or what we were supposed to be and do that the limitations and possibly death of our dreams started. Those limiting thoughts did not just rest with our dreams it also arrested our growth and development for the greatest version of ourselves. It could have started from external forces, environment, parents, etc. but at some point it became internal and we started to remind ourselves of what we could and could not do. But that F.E.A.R (False Evidence Appearing Real) can be defeated and stopped in its tracks if we just dare to DREAM BIGGER.

How is that possible you ask, it is too late, I am too old, I have kids, I do not have enough education, etc. Nevertheless, are any of your excuses permanent barriers that cannot be overcome or a help in you fulfilling your lifelong dream? A dream that you thought was long dead and way out of your reach. Well I am here to tell you that there is no such thing. I am a living testament to that. For those of you that know me personally know that when I want something I get it. It does not matter what it is or in past tense if, it was even good for me. I put my mind to obtaining it and let nothing stop me not even myself because my dreams or end game as I sometimes call it was so much bigger and better than my current situation that there was no fear to overcome, it was too small to matter.

At this very moment I have a humungous dream that many would say I am crazy for thinking or there is no way. I will not share at time (That is another lesson about not sharing your dreams with everyone). The reasons why it cannot and will not work, the fears of it not working are so minimal that they do not even matter to me. All that matters to me is this place and time that I know in my very DNA exists for me and nothing can stop me because I am magnetic and it is drawn to me by my sheer will and force. Those are the types of dreams that you are supposed to have and cultivate dreams so big and powerful that they are forced to materialize by your magnetic desire for them with in reason of course. Your desire to be president right this moment may be slightly delayed until the next election.

Instead of just dreaming for a good job, dream for your dream company, where you can do what you love to do and be paid for it.

Instead of dreaming for an executive position, dream for your own empire.

Instead of dreaming for a paying gig, dream of being the most sought after artist of our time.

Erase the lid from your thought pattern and DREAM BIGGER. It does not cost anything to dream big, the best thing that could happen is that you get more than you could have imagined, the worst thing that could happen is that you get exactly what you expected. Like Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right”.

DREAM BIGGER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Start at the end of the “if then”

Many of us try to imagine what our lives will be like if and then. Yet what is the purpose of the “if then”? Is it happiness, contentment, peace? What purpose does it drive to? What is your end game?

Let us see if we play the “if then” game what result are we likely to get. Begin:

If I had more money then I will be happier.

Really, why?

Because I will be able to have a better life.

Why will you have a better life?

Because I will be able to get out of debt and afford the things, I want.

Will more money really get you out of debt or just create new debt?

Not sure maybe

Will the new debt make you happier because it financed what you wanted?

Probably not

So you will start back over with if I had money to get out of this debt then I will be happier?

I guess so

So if happiness is truly, what you want, then what is it that truly makes you happy?

That is the correct question. If we start at the end of the “if then” statement then we truly understand what it is that we are requesting. So now, let us start at the end. Begin:

What will make me happier?

Getting out of debt

What do you need to get out of debt?

More money

How can you get more money?

A new job, an additional job, a raise, the lottery

How would you like to get more money?

I actually would like to start my own business

So what is stopping you from doing so?

Many things… money, education, connections, time, I am not sure it will work

Are any of those things impossible?

No

Then start

This example gets to the heart of the “if then”. Once we figure out our end game, what it is that we really want. We can focus ourselves on achieving that goal. It may be daunting but it is never impossible. Get to the end of your “if then” and start from there.

Always remember to Dream Bigger!

My Unbelief in the Impossibility of It All

There was once a time when I thought all things were possible. There were no limits on life, no limits on what I wanted to be, and who I wanted to be. Then something changed, what, what was it that made me change my mind and believe in limitations and impossibilities. It could be attributed to others, my family, my church, my teachers, and it even life itself but why should that be? Better yet why did I believe that I could not do and be certain things? FEAR! fear created a ceiling in my belief system that created more weight and value in impossibilities than the absolute that possibility of everything that can be and will be created. I had to come to an awareness and understanding in my own fears and what their basis was. I had three basic fears that all of my limitations were based in, fear of rejection, fear of poverty, and fear of lack. Now the later two may appear the same but they are actually not. Even though lack and poverty are based in limitation, poverty is more correlated to finance and lack could be correlated to everything, finance, ability, love, etc. In understanding the basis of my fears I had to address them and look at them for what they were, it was a train of thought that had to be derailed. I was on a path of understanding my purpose and creating and cultivating a correct belief system in the ever possible. Now don't get me wrong I am not completely immune to those fears but I no longer give them fuel and purpose to grow. I cut them out as soon as I feel them trying to ruin my life. Yes, I take them as serious as death because the life they create is death. It does nothing but infest lack and limitation and derail the purpose driven life that I now life. There is now a place within me where my disbelief in the impossibility of it all lives and thrives. I believe that the greatest things within us are possible and more so probable. It is all probable if we believe because we believe, thus removing our belief in the impossible.