When is Love Enough?

When is love enough?

When is love enough for you to move past all of things that made you cry, all the things that made you say I can’t do this anymore, or I’ll just settle for good enough?

Love is this magical, awesome, wondrous thing that makes the birds sing and give you rainbows and unicorns all the time. Then there are the hurt “loves”. The love you are in that hurts you, emotionally / physically. The love that stifles you and stunts your growth, the love that you are just use to, the love that you settle for because you feel that it is too late for anything else.

When is love strong enough, great enough to overcome all of the things that warn us of past hurts and experiences?

When is love enough to make us forget all the bad things of the past?

When is love enough to make us fight for the great love that we are destined and deserving to have?

When is love ever enough to make us whole and happy?

I wish I knew when  that moment was. That moment when you trust that the love you have is enough to make everything rainbows and unicorns. There is always  a period of time when you think yes, here it is, here is my happy but then the doubt sets in, the insecurities arise, the past comes back to yell at us, “this is too good, it won’t last, something is wrong with them”. Once those thoughts set in the rainbows fade and the unicorns all die. So now what? How strong does love have to be in order for it to enough to get past it all?

It has to be because that is what real love is.

Love is always strong enough when you totally and completely surrender to it. It is not something that is done externally, it is an internal mandate. You have to know that you are enough. That you are more than enough. That you are worthy of love that you have never known but somehow dreamed of. Love that makes the impossible seem probable. Love that moves heaven and earth just because it can.

Love does not hurt, it is not capable because of its own nature. The hurt comes from ourselves and others that use pain as a defense or is just their own nature. This understanding is simple enough but its implementation is a whole other story.

Surrendering to love is something that takes absolute trust and belief that you are worth it and everything will be alright even if it is not the alright we planned. So how do we do it, how do we take the leap of faith that we need in order to get what we want?

It is very simple, DO THE WORK.

Do the work to find out why you have the pattern relationships that always end the same way.

Do the work to see why you stay in a relationship that you know you have no business being in and should not have gotten into in the first place.

Do the work to see what it is that you want out of love.

Do the work to see what you are willing to and must give to love, a real love, a true love, a self-love.

It all begins internally with a self-love that knows no bounds, no conditions, that is complete and absolute. That is the crazy, abundant, fearless kind of love that is more than enough. It is the kind of love that inspires greatness and changes everything. It is a strong magnet that will draw to its self its own. It will lead down a path to a love that will make you believe again in rainbows and unicorns yet this time the fairytale is a true story based on you. Dare to dream of a great big love and do the work to make it strong enough.